Gay vs straight sex

In brief (at least as it's generally depicted in gay erotic fiction), gays display no more interest in women’s highly favored romanticism than do straight males.

Reporting on the findings of a mammoth international survey (with over 250,000 participants), Ogas and Gaddam note that both gays and straight males were found to “prefer appearance and visual attractiveness over all other qualities when selecting a partner.” And they add that when, in another study, gays and straights were placed in a brain scanner and shown pornographic videos, “their brain activity was strikingly similar”—as contrasted, that is, with the scanner results when women were subject to complementary arousal cues.

Moreover, these authors point out that, in general:

“Gay men don’t just like the same kind of porn as straight men.

If you were to look at singles instead, the results might be very different.

On the other hand, psychologist and queer rights advocate Deepak Kashyap suggests that this experience of men having sex with men irrespective of their orientation or gender expression is also very Indian – or South Asian – in its nature.

He said there are several reasons why men who call themselves straight do this. And excluding their second most favored ranking, Straight (a predilection that would undoubtedly be mystifying had their near obsession with dominant masculinity not already been explained), all their other preferences closely parallel those of straight males.

But as sex surveys go, this one was reasonably well done.

People in lesbian, gay male and mixed-gender couples have their differences. My friend Farhad once hooked up with an internet celebrity who was known to be extremely straight in his carefully crafted online world. As these two authors put it: “The vast majority of gay men prefer to masturbate while thinking about cowboys, firemen, or David Beckham instead of drag queens, ballet dancers, or Elton John.” And further: “On the television show Glee, the football player Finn and mohawked bad boy Puck are bigger turn-ons for gay men than the effeminate gay character Kurt” (p.

Some men suffer from homosexual obsessive compulsive disorder which is really just OCD attached to the worry that you might be homosexual.”

Kort also claims that gay men are more willing to engage in fantasy play, verbal play, and various sexual acts and fantasies that many women are uncomfortable with or disgusted by. And In this respect, it’s most telling (as Ogas and Gaddam reflect) that most women don’t react positively to straight porn, because the camera virtually instructs them to have sex with the woman showcased—and in a manner that a male (not another woman) would.

So how do Ogas and Gaddam, as neuroscientists, account for this phenomenon? While it was mostly me on the giving end of it, I thought of it as early target practice, since today I am as gay as Easter Sunday.

However, today, my childhood friend is married and has a wife and kid of his own, and he even had a great pre-Covid wedding party.

“I don’t wish to hold hands, read books and go on dates [with men]. “Out here, just like most things, identities are fluid and not rigidly defined, especially personal identities,” he said. Are same-sex couples sexually more compatible than heterosexual couples? Many of these two authors’ findings are controversial—counter to mainstream assumptions and beliefs.

Instead, they catapult the viewer right into the “good stuff.” The sex presented is “a fast, anonymous, orgasm-focused tangle of bodies” (p. The only difference was that women, both lesbian and straight, felt somewhat more satisfied with non-genital caresses than men, both gay and straight, presumably because compared with women, men tend to be more genital-focused.

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In my conversations with other gay and bisexual friends, I have found that each and every one of them has at least one sexual story where a straight man was involved.

Desire declines in long-term couples, but on average, men retain more desire than women, so we would expect men in gay couples to feel the most desire, and women in lesbian couples the least, with the men in mixed-sex couples expressing more libido than the women.