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What's more, by stating your own preferences, you'll increase your chances of being approached by a Dom looking for a sub like you. Consider what makes a good Dom

It's not just about giving orders, a truly good Dom has self-control, good communication skills and is respectful. I wonder if there's a better word than "submissive" to be the opposite of the word "power"?

You need to do some research, weigh up your options and make sure you're comfortable with any steps you take.

In an effort to help out any newbies, we thought we'd layout a few basic tips.

These tips are fairly standard, but they're not necessarily universal. Use Recon

Identifying a good Dom isn't going to happen in the supermarket (though…it has been known), and not everyone can get to fetish and kink clubs regularly.

I can. Things such as how many friends they've got and how many photos of actual play they have will help you gauge their experience and "reputation".

5. They are a good basis, though, so keep them in mind when you're on your hunt.

It's always a good idea to keep your Recon profile updated when you discover a taste for new things.

You don't need to be 100% into the same things – sometimes the most fun can be found when you or a good Dom pushes you to try something new – but usually it's a good indicator.

A good idea is talking to other subs on Recon who are into the same things as you, asking them what to look for in a Dom, and asking for recommendations in your area.

On our site and apps, you can freely read profiles and message Doms – sizing them up in the comfort of your own home. If you are the type who likes to bottom shame, I bet you totally can’t!

Bottoms come in a variety of shapes, colors and sizes. You aren’t nearly as alpha as you think.

Bottoms are more alpha than you think

By: Kyle in Wyoming

There’s a ridiculous myth floating around that gay men can’t be rugged – particularly guys like me who identify as bottom.

Recon exists so that you can master your fetish evolution, meet guys and try out the things you crave – so use us. Our interest varies too. Any concerns that you might have before going to a meet are perfectly valid, so bear them in mind when looking.

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Let's face it, one man's ideal Dom might not be Dom enough for another. In fact, there’s a term for this called bottom shaming.

To the gays who think this, let me ask you something.